Do you ever stop before offering advise? Wondering if you should say what you believe will help the person or do you say the thoughts that will concur with their feelings in hopes that you will ease their turmoil and they will move on? Offering advice or when someone seeks advice from you is always a slippery slope. At times you as a friend maybe tired of the constant ails and/or trials and want to say, "Get over it! Deal with it you know what to do!" and then there are times when saying "I understand, you are right" seem to fit the bill.
I know I have always had issues with offering advice. At times I will say what the person wants to know and most times it is because I do not want to be bothered with the drama. I have things on my mind! But is that a true friend? Is that really offering advice? Other instances I say exactly what I think. And guess what? It is because I do not want to be bothered with the drama and/or want to help!! So what is the answer?
If you do not want to be bothered either way, tell them straight. Help them. If you lose a friend then it happens. However, if your friend comes out on the other side with a healthy insight to their dilemma you have helped your friend.
Just my thought...what do you think?
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