US actress & singer (1946 - )
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
Quote of the Day
US actress & singer (1946 - )
Monday, January 25, 2010
Quote of the Day
US author & wit (1884 - 1980)
Sunday, January 24, 2010
Overhead at the Unemployment office....
> You know I am up there with Malcolm and Martin, what I say goes to the highest. (Dude also had a 1997 Bobby Brown backstage pass hanging around his neck)
> I bet you want step outside. I am going to kick your arse. I bet you won't. Response: No you won't.
> It's time for you go!
> I bet you want step outside. I am going to kick your arse. I bet you won't. Response: No you won't.
> It's time for you go!
Monday, January 18, 2010
Random Thoughts
> I had a stomach virus or just a pissed off stomach this weekend. I live alone. No one I know has access to my apartment unless I go get them. Do you know how much energy it took for me to drive to the Pharmacy and pick up meds? And how many times I barfed in a 25 minute outing?
> Never thought I would say this...I have too many books...anyone want to buy a couple?
> When a "friend" hears that your baby/dog is gone and says, "Oh, you want to call me back?" tells you they really are not a friend.
> That outgoing person I always wanted to be is not going to happen. I stay in my head too much.
> On Ponce there is a guy in a wheelchair who refuses to use the sidewalk. Apparently he believes his 2 wheels equate to a motorcycle and he can use any lane he chooses. All while using his feet to move the chair. WTF?
> People at the Plantation have been talking about the Idol mess. Now these are the same people that if you say one word, one word about their habits, lack of talent, poor work ethic or idiosyncrasies will get straight hood on you, but love to pick fun at other people. I need someone to hold up a mirror.
> I am trying to grow Mint & Rosemary. Wish me luck!
> As of right now, I will spend another Heart Day alone. I kidnapped my nephew so I wouldn't have to spend New Year's Eve alone. Looks like another kidnapping is in the works.
> I have a habit of searching and befriending "unavailable" friends. I need a microscope. Some investigating is needed.
> Never thought I would say this...I have too many books...anyone want to buy a couple?
> When a "friend" hears that your baby/dog is gone and says, "Oh, you want to call me back?" tells you they really are not a friend.
> That outgoing person I always wanted to be is not going to happen. I stay in my head too much.
> On Ponce there is a guy in a wheelchair who refuses to use the sidewalk. Apparently he believes his 2 wheels equate to a motorcycle and he can use any lane he chooses. All while using his feet to move the chair. WTF?
> People at the Plantation have been talking about the Idol mess. Now these are the same people that if you say one word, one word about their habits, lack of talent, poor work ethic or idiosyncrasies will get straight hood on you, but love to pick fun at other people. I need someone to hold up a mirror.
> I am trying to grow Mint & Rosemary. Wish me luck!
> As of right now, I will spend another Heart Day alone. I kidnapped my nephew so I wouldn't have to spend New Year's Eve alone. Looks like another kidnapping is in the works.
> I have a habit of searching and befriending "unavailable" friends. I need a microscope. Some investigating is needed.
Saturday, January 16, 2010
My Pain
Last week I lost someone who I loved more than I knew. She was with me when I moved out (or rather didn't move with the folks) and got my own place at 19. She was with me when he left me again and again. He gave her to me. She was there when I had surgery. When Grandma Minnie died. When Buttercup died. When Great-Grandma died. She was there when that man came into my apartment. She was there when I dropped my basket. When I finally graduated. She was there. Happy for me.
There where days when I talked so much shit about her. She couldn't understand where to go pee. She liked to knock over my drinks so she could have some. Leftovers, a favorite. Out of the trash can. Kicking me in the middle of the night because I moved and she lost her position in the bed. My favorite pillow. Waking me up at 2 am to go to the bathroom. Separating me from anyone sitting on the sofa by kicking them.
She was the greatest.
I had to let her go. I do not know the day, my family took care of that. What I do know that she is not her with me. And I miss her more than I thought I would.
Everyday is a struggle to get up and go to work. To eat. To behave as if my life is normal. I want her to be behind me. Me talking to her to tell her where to go because she was completely blind. Picking her up because steps bothered her.
I want my best friend back. I want to hear her nails on the hardwood. Watch her run into walls, furniture and anything in her path. I want to feel her nose at night as she searches me out to make sure I am still there. The scratching noise she makes at my parent's bedroom door because she loves their room! Watching her maneuver my parents property blind from the back and make it to the front. Hopping around in the rain because she hates rain!
The neurotic, loving, insufferable, lovable, moody and beautiful American Cocker Spaniel is physically not with me.
My heart will never let her go.
There where days when I talked so much shit about her. She couldn't understand where to go pee. She liked to knock over my drinks so she could have some. Leftovers, a favorite. Out of the trash can. Kicking me in the middle of the night because I moved and she lost her position in the bed. My favorite pillow. Waking me up at 2 am to go to the bathroom. Separating me from anyone sitting on the sofa by kicking them.
She was the greatest.
I had to let her go. I do not know the day, my family took care of that. What I do know that she is not her with me. And I miss her more than I thought I would.
Everyday is a struggle to get up and go to work. To eat. To behave as if my life is normal. I want her to be behind me. Me talking to her to tell her where to go because she was completely blind. Picking her up because steps bothered her.
I want my best friend back. I want to hear her nails on the hardwood. Watch her run into walls, furniture and anything in her path. I want to feel her nose at night as she searches me out to make sure I am still there. The scratching noise she makes at my parent's bedroom door because she loves their room! Watching her maneuver my parents property blind from the back and make it to the front. Hopping around in the rain because she hates rain!
The neurotic, loving, insufferable, lovable, moody and beautiful American Cocker Spaniel is physically not with me.
My heart will never let her go.
Thursday, January 14, 2010
Sorry Y'all
This is where I am right now....
"I find nothing more depressing than optimism." ~
"I find nothing more depressing than optimism." ~
Paul Fussell
Hopefully I will come out soon...
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
TMI Tuesday...late...
Would you rather.....
1. Have eyes that always smile or a voice that makes people calm?
Eyes that smile...I am so over and tired of people telling me to stop frowning and I should smile more.
2. Have an affair and your partner catches you or your partner have an affair and you catch him/her?
Neither, either way hurts.
3. Have better sex or more money?
More money...sex you can maneuver.
4. Be able to read everyone’s mind all the time or always know the future?
Neither. Too much power.
5. Your partner have sex with someone else or fall in love with someone else?
Really? Such a stupid, hard and complicated question....no answer...
Bonus (as in optional): What one thing, big or small, would you change in your life if granted one wish by a lamp-bound genie? Why?
Not to be alone.
1. Have eyes that always smile or a voice that makes people calm?
Eyes that smile...I am so over and tired of people telling me to stop frowning and I should smile more.
2. Have an affair and your partner catches you or your partner have an affair and you catch him/her?
Neither, either way hurts.
3. Have better sex or more money?
More money...sex you can maneuver.
4. Be able to read everyone’s mind all the time or always know the future?
Neither. Too much power.
5. Your partner have sex with someone else or fall in love with someone else?
Really? Such a stupid, hard and complicated question....no answer...
Bonus (as in optional): What one thing, big or small, would you change in your life if granted one wish by a lamp-bound genie? Why?
Not to be alone.
It is What it is...
"First say to yourself what you would be; and then do what you have to do." ~ Epictetus
Monday, January 11, 2010
Are You Listening?
"Really listening and suspending one's own judgment is necessary in order to understand other people on their own terms... This is a process that requires trust and builds trust." ~ Mary Field Belenky
Do you really listen? Can you listen to a person's life and disregard your journeys to understand what they are saying? Have you ever felt or believed someone did not get you? Could it be because they were not listening?
I am definitely guilty of not listening. When I catch myself thinking of my own response or my own personal story I begin to retract the thoughts because whom I am speaking with is more important. They are telling me their story and it needs to be told. Just like yours. However, I have found it is always better to listen to your friend. Listen with your heart and mind in step with theirs. Even if you are unfamiliar. You will learn more about them and that will undoubtedly make the relationship better but you will also learn more of yourself.
Do you really listen? Can you listen to a person's life and disregard your journeys to understand what they are saying? Have you ever felt or believed someone did not get you? Could it be because they were not listening?
I am definitely guilty of not listening. When I catch myself thinking of my own response or my own personal story I begin to retract the thoughts because whom I am speaking with is more important. They are telling me their story and it needs to be told. Just like yours. However, I have found it is always better to listen to your friend. Listen with your heart and mind in step with theirs. Even if you are unfamiliar. You will learn more about them and that will undoubtedly make the relationship better but you will also learn more of yourself.
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
TMI Tuesday
Would you rather.....
1. A relaxing vacation or an adventurous trip?
An adventurous trip...I will always find time to relax! :)
2. Get a perfect nights sleep or have amazing sex?
Not having sex right now and not sleeping worth a damn...right now I would go for sleep.
3. Rather be intimate with the lights on or off?
Can I just get intimate? Please?
4. Your S/O be a terrible kisser who could always make you orgasm or an amazing kisser who could never make you orgasm?
The big O. Always. Ok that's a lie. A good kiss is worth all of it sometimes.
5. Date someone much younger or much older than you?
Older but not younger. Tried it. My tolerance is not what it should be.
Bonus (as in optional): Which reality show would you be good at? Why?
The Amazing Race. Mainly due to my love of challenges and I would love to see the world.
1. A relaxing vacation or an adventurous trip?
An adventurous trip...I will always find time to relax! :)
2. Get a perfect nights sleep or have amazing sex?
Not having sex right now and not sleeping worth a damn...right now I would go for sleep.
3. Rather be intimate with the lights on or off?
Can I just get intimate? Please?
4. Your S/O be a terrible kisser who could always make you orgasm or an amazing kisser who could never make you orgasm?
The big O. Always. Ok that's a lie. A good kiss is worth all of it sometimes.
5. Date someone much younger or much older than you?
Older but not younger. Tried it. My tolerance is not what it should be.
Bonus (as in optional): Which reality show would you be good at? Why?
The Amazing Race. Mainly due to my love of challenges and I would love to see the world.
Sunday, January 3, 2010
What I Have Learned from the Decade of 2000-2009
For me learning is a day to day adventure...I always try to find new information with my interactions...here are some of mine...
More later...
I loved this past decade because I grew as a person. I will not change the obstacles, triumphs and mishaps placed in my path. Finally I am ok with being 33.
- Although we all grew up in the same home we each took that upbringing and walked a different path. I am still trying to understand.
- Just because you had a traumatic event does not mean anyone gets how it changes you.
- Finding love is a hard job.
- The economy today does not care what degree you have.
- Even if you have issues with your childhood and your parents have not always given what you wanted they are always there when you need them.
- Sometimes that 1st real love is all you are going to get.
- You have to follow your dreams.
- Stick it out even when you wonder what you are going to eat.
- Don't believe the hype...Chuck D said it best.
- My nephews and niece show me that I am still young but old.
- Never put a person on a pedestal, stay grounded that they are human like you.
- Have empathy, someone had it for you.
- Do not believe Obama is here just for Black America. If you voted for him for that reason you are delusional.
- Y'all Michael Jackson is gone!
- I am not a socialable person. Can't even fake it. Sorry.
- I am 33 years old and still have no idea why I am here on Earth. How messed up is that.
- My sister birthed an awesome child...Cameron Isaiah...my Buddha!
- I understand my parents 40 year marriage...goodness!
- My old English Professor was correct, don't believe half of what you read. Find your own sources.
More later...
I loved this past decade because I grew as a person. I will not change the obstacles, triumphs and mishaps placed in my path. Finally I am ok with being 33.
Saturday, January 2, 2010
I Got a Plot of Swamp Land I Want to Sell YOU!
Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities. ~ Voltaire
Who has sold you a bill of goods? Have you been duped? I think of these instances....
Slavery...because someone told someone else this was a good thing and they believed them...
The Holocaust...because HE told them and they bought it
Today's Slave Trade....because this should not be happening today in 2010
Human Sex Trade....
Friday, January 1, 2010
Tough Love
In giving advice, seek to help, not please, your friend. ~ Solon
Do you ever stop before offering advise? Wondering if you should say what you believe will help the person or do you say the thoughts that will concur with their feelings in hopes that you will ease their turmoil and they will move on? Offering advice or when someone seeks advice from you is always a slippery slope. At times you as a friend maybe tired of the constant ails and/or trials and want to say, "Get over it! Deal with it you know what to do!" and then there are times when saying "I understand, you are right" seem to fit the bill.
I know I have always had issues with offering advice. At times I will say what the person wants to know and most times it is because I do not want to be bothered with the drama. I have things on my mind! But is that a true friend? Is that really offering advice? Other instances I say exactly what I think. And guess what? It is because I do not want to be bothered with the drama and/or want to help!! So what is the answer?
If you do not want to be bothered either way, tell them straight. Help them. If you lose a friend then it happens. However, if your friend comes out on the other side with a healthy insight to their dilemma you have helped your friend.
Just my thought...what do you think?
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